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Often our stories are developed based on something we see or hear someone else do, and we then think this is the вЂright way to do itвЂ™вЂ¦ but the truth is, we are all trying to work this stuff out. A story that we have developed to explain something that we are trying to work out. They determine how we feel about ourselves- whether we deserve a good life or not, whether we deserve to be loved or not, whether we deserve success or not- and they define what we know and understand about ourselves.вЂќ Mark Manson.

вЂњThese narratives we invent for ourselves around whatвЂ™s important and whatвЂ™s not, what is deserving and what is not- these stories stick with us and define us, they determine how we fit ourselves in to the world and with each other. HereвЂ™s a quote to summarise how the narratives we develop and the narrative we tell ourselves can influence our lives. Similar to his first book, Mark refers to values and suggests how some of the behaviours we have developed have stemmed from something irrational. IвЂ™m currently reading the latest book by Mark Manson: Everything is F*cked A Book About Hope. This is another part of the story we tell ourselves. Often the reality is very different and yet IвЂ™ve spent all of this time worrying about something that didnвЂ™t even happen. Too often I worry about the things that have not happened yet but sit in the suffering of my own imagination. One of the biggest concerns for me is how deeply ingrained this narrative is, even though IвЂ™m consciously acting against it.

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I would prefer to feel the stress of not understanding or not knowing how to cope than to show a weakness and a need to ask for support. A narrative that says that if we ask for help it reflects as a weakness. Somewhere along the way we created a story. It takes an incredibly brave person to be vulnerable enough to say вЂIвЂ™m not sure what IвЂ™m doing here, can I please have some help?вЂ™ and to accept the help that is being offered to them. Pooh responds to the вЂbravest thing he has ever saidвЂ™ by saying he would simply asked for help. This image of Piglet and Pooh captures this perfectly. вЂќI can do it вЂ¦вЂќ is a phrase IвЂ™ve replayed to myself time and time again even when I couldnвЂ™tвЂ¦ but why? To feel in control? To feel successful? To prove a point? But what I end up doing is making things more difficult for myself than they really need to be. вЂњHelpвЂќ has not been the first thing I would think of when something has been challenging. Help: (verb) to make it easier or possible for someone to do something.

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